I HATE SOMEONE HOW DO i STOP?
I hate my sisters husband. He is a horrible person and he is really overweight and almost everyday i think I wish he would leave or worse I wish he would die. He will too if he doesnt start taking care of himself.He treats my sister awful. He hits her but makes sure not to leave marks.He calls her a whore and accuses her of being a lesbian because she talks to her freinds. My sister has an illness fibromyalgia. All of her freinds are from her support group. She has told him to leave but he wont and he threatens her all the time because He claims he knows some of her freinds use weed for their illness and he is going to tell the cops. She isnt using weed but thats his hold on her. She is on morphine.They have a kid too and she is 14 and hates her father because he does things like show up at the public pool screaming and makes her leave. I hate him.I feel no pity for him he makes us all miserable and my sister is somewhat delicate. Knowing he abuses her makes me want bad things for him
I know what category Im posting in.I want spiritual advice.Whats wrong with that? How can I heal my heart of this hate?
He weighs 400 pounds.Thats why it matters I keep thinking fine keep eating you will die.That is wicked of me.
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1. Make him some blueberry muffins.2. Remember that we are all as one.
3. hating him gets nothing done. it only hurts you. you arent doing any good holding onto that hate. not to mention he probably doesnt even know you hate him. therefore he isnt hurt in the least by your hatred
4. Restraining order.
She should go down and file one, then file for divorce. A police will show up, serve him with the restraining order, he'll have to leave the premises and then she will probably need to stay with family until the divorce and restraining order are permanent.
5. By reading your question i think im going to hate him pretty bad too.
Prayer does work, but i do not think its the power of god, rather the people themselves.
I wish you the best and your sister. It seems like you guys are in a sticky situation. And yes, RESTRICTION ORDER!!!
6. If what you're saying is true, call child protective services. You can do so without revealing who you are.
Start the ball rolling.
7. Um, what does his weight have to do with the way he treats your sister?
8. Your sister is the only one that can ask him to leave.....I suggest to talk to her in detail how you feel about him, and maybe that will sort some things out.
I'm so sorry, this sounds horrible...........
Good luck!
9. Matthew 6:15
But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins
And you know what that means don't you?
God Bless You
10. Make her leave him. It won't be the end of the world. People everyday leave abusive relationships. All he has over her is that they use weed....not much of a hold at all. She can tell them to get rid of it if he tells the police. they aren't going to arrest them they will just give them a fine. They most likely will laugh it off. He has no proof to show that they use weed. Just force her to move away from him. Keep hating him. you have every right to.
11. you need to forgive him and pray for him, I know that will be very hard when you feel the abuse is still going on. but letting go of the hate will release you also.
12. Why would you want to stop hating him? He is abusing someone you care about, your sister, he deserves all the hatred he gets and more! You need to tell the police, or any other type of authority, and get a restraining order against him for your sister and your niece if they won't.
13. Try to love him despite his defcits and the way he treats you. this is a long process but gaurantees success at the end. when you love some one no matter what they do to you after some time they have to/ will back down.
14. feel very sorry about your sister, we all known that, someting in the world is hard 2 change,we just dont know what 2 do , In the case of your sad sister we feel dreadful~
15. Ask god to help your sister,
God can help anyone anywhere!
I'll pray for god to help your sisters husband to get saved and change his ways.
that was not a joke
-god bless!
16. Until they BOTH get right with God, those things will continue. All you can do is pray for them to seek God whole-heartedly. I know what you are going through, because my sister is currently in the same boat. I Know I cannot have ill will towards the guy because that is not what God wants from me. The best thing to do is forgive him and pray for him as well. I wouldn't get involved, unless your sister asks for your help.
The way I see it, my sister is a grown woman, and when she has had enough of him, she will leave him. If I get involved, she will end up turning against me and side with him and I don't want any animosity between her and I.
I know that my brother in law would love that. He'd like for my sister to burn all her bridges so that she will have no one to turn to when the time comes.
Like I said before,
The best thing for you to do is pray for her and her family.
Until then, let go of that anger and hate towards him.
Ask God to come into your heart and take away the hate that you feel towards your brother in law. Read your Bible.
That is the best thing you can do to stay in the Word of GOD.
God will hear all your prayers.
-God Bless.
-Romans 12:19
Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will repay," says the Lord.
-Hebrews 10:30
For we know him who said, "It is mine to avenge; I will repay," and again, "The Lord will judge his people."
-Leviticus 19:17
" 'Do not hate your brother in your heart. Rebuke your neighbor frankly so you will not share in his guilt.
-1 John 4:20
If anyone says, "I love God," yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen.
-1 John 2:9
Anyone who claims to be in the light but hates his brother is still in the darkness.
-1 John 2:11
But whoever hates his brother is in the darkness and walks around in the darkness; he does not know where he is going, because the darkness has blinded him.
-1 John 3:15
Anyone who hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life in him.
17. Hatred is like a disease, a poison! You need to help her to find a women's battered shelter or a crisis intervention
place. They are in need of protection. If she is taking prescribed drugs then she won't be in trouble with the law,BUT if she doesn't get the help they need
the outcome could be devastating!!!
You have to forgive him as an act of your will, 'cause it's like
a poison..the things he has done are very unjust.
So it will not be easy but it is necessary!
I will be praying for all of you!!!
18. Maybe its not hate but anger, which in this case is justifiable. The reason you feel like this because you don't think you can do anything about that. I found this article online and I hope you will read it and give your sister to read it and then Pray to God for guidance of what needs to be done. Our laws was derived from God's laws to protect the innocent and to stop the violence.
http://www.mentalhelp.net/poc/view_doc.php?type=doc&id=8474&cn=2
God Bless
19. the best solution could be probably the divorce,this in case the the divorce will not affect too much the child and ur sister too.however the fact that u hate him is not the best you can do because this is not to do with his behaviour.he wont change because you hate him.so...this is only affect yourself.
